Is having a crush a sin?
Introduction
A crush can be described as an intense, romantic, or sexual interest in someone that develops based on physical appearance, personality traits, or a combination of both.
Having a crush often involves daydreaming about a person, thinking about them frequently, feeling nervous or excited in their presence, and wanting to spend time with them.
While having a crush can be a thrilling and enjoyable experience, it is usually considered a temporary feeling that may fade over time or develop into a deeper emotional connection.
Sin, on the other hand, is an act of breaking God’s rule and going against His Word and commandments.
Sin is not only performed through actions like stealing, killing, lying, etc.
One can commit sin by thinking evil and nursing immoral thoughts. However, having the urge to sin is not sin but temptation.
Temptation is the pressure to sin or anything that influences you to disobey God.
Succumbing to that pressure leads to sin, not the pressure or influence.
Therefore, is having a crush a sin?
There’s no one answer to that.
Crush is a feeling, but what you do with that feeling determines if you have sinned.
So what are those things you do when you have a crush on someone that can be considered a sin?
These are what we will discuss.
Keep reading to find out.
It’s a sin to have lustful thoughts.
“But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27)
There are different categories of sins.
And even though all sins are equal, other sins have more grievous consequences.
One of these sins is fornication or adultery, relating to sex with someone you are not legally married to.
The Bible says committing these acts is sinning against God and polluting His temple: your body (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)
Since having sex involves making physical contact with a person, some people look for another route to commit the same sin, derive similar pleasure and escape the consequences of their sin and hide their actions, like looking at someone seductively, kissing them in their heart, having sex with them in your heart, etc.
Jesus said doing these things is the same as doing the act itself.
Therefore, having a crush on someone becomes a sin when you nurse lustful thoughts about that person.
Those thoughts will definitely force themselves into your mind even without your permission, so you have to guard your heart, distract it, and engage in other activities that will kill the fire building up in your heart (Proverbs 4:23).
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It’s a sin to give in to your lusts.
“Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.” (James 1:15)
As stated earlier, lustful thoughts and feelings will come as long as we have flesh. However, whether we encourage or reject such thoughts and feelings will determine if we have fallen into sin.
When you have a crush on someone, especially someone close to you.
There’s a high chance that a person will notice it and might want to take advantage of it.
The possibility of letting your guard down around your crush is high. And that includes accepting their sexual advances.
When you get to the point of kissing, having sex, or engaging in any intimate contact with them, you have sinned.
Some people cannot manage their emotions and feelings toward a person.
They fantasize about doing immoral things with their crush.
That is when having a crush has metamorphosed into sin.
The best way to avoid this situation if you have intense, uncontrollable thoughts and desire for someone or notice someone has the same for you is by cutting off contact and every form of communication with your crush.
It’s better to lose such a relationship than to destroy your relationship with God (Matthew 18:8-9).
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It’s a sin to force yourself on someone.
Sometimes, the feelings you have when you have a crush on someone are overwhelming and intense.
They make you burn with passion and have an irresistible urge to be with someone to the extent of forcing themselves on that person by stalking or even raping them.
These feelings can be dangerous if not tamed and make one fall into sin and the tight grip of the law.
Hence one must be careful.
The Bible records two stories of two people who had a crush on someone but managed their desires differently, leading to different outcomes.
The first person was King David’s son Amnon.
The Bible records in 2 Samuel 13:1-22 that Amnon had a crush on Tamar, his step-sister, to the point that he became sick.
He couldn’t control himself, and it felt like he would die without Tamar.
Amnon followed the wrong counsel of his friend Jonadab, who advised him to pretend to be sick, ask Tamar to serve him a meal in his bedroom, and then force himself on her.
Amnon did precisely that and raped his step-sister.
Another scenario of someone who had a crush was Jacob. Jacob was attracted to Rachel.
The Bible describes Rachel as a woman beautiful in form and appearance (Genesis 29:17).
Jacob struck a deal with Rachel’s father, Laban, who was also his uncle, to serve him as a shepherd of his flock for seven years in exchange for Rachel’s hand in marriage (Genesis 29:18-30).
Jacob worked hard for seven years but was cheated.
Laban gave him his older daughter, Leah, instead of Rachel. But Jacob wasn’t pleased.
He didn’t love Leah.
So, Laban told him to work for another seven years if he wanted Rachel.
He agreed, did an extra seven years of service, and finally got the woman he desired.
These stories paint a clear picture of managing your emotions as a person.
Amnon could not control his desire, leading to sin and later his death (2 Samuel 13:23-38 ). However, Jacob followed due process and channeled his passion in the right direction into winning his crush’s heart and love.
Therefore, having a crush is not a sin. However, when what you feel drives you into hurting whom you claim to love, you have sinned.
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David Akeju is a Christian writer who believes in the transformational power of God’s Word. His articles and books have been published on global platforms, and thousands of lives have been touched. He works with pastors and ministers, churches and ministries, and brands.