What does the Bible say about a man making a woman cry?
Introduction
The Bible is an exciting book.
It is a complete life’s manual, highlighting life’s principles and pointing us toward better ways to interact and build strong and thriving relationships as families, friends, colleagues, and people.
It shows us how to treat the weak and vulnerable and highlights the consequences of hurting them.
Women are special to God; He cherishes them and would not allow anything or anyone to hurt them.
However, what happens if you make a woman cry or she shed a tear, especially as a man?
This article discusses the Bible’s position on a man making a woman cry.
What the Bible says about treating women
One key area the Bible focuses on is how to treat one another, especially those who have an advantage over others in one way or another.
That is why the Bible lays down principles about how to treat the needy, children, and women.
The Bible refers to women as a weaker vessel.
This description pictures women as feminine, gentle, soft, and fragile compared to their masculine, tough, domineering, and physically strong male counterparts.
The male’s body structure and strength naturally make them physically stronger than an average woman.
Therefore, they might want to abuse that advantage to oppress, maltreat, and assault instead of protect and guard.
The Bible offers various teachings on how men should utilize their strength in leading, guiding, and treating women right.
The Bible is against oppression and inflicting physical, emotional, and mental pain against anyone, especially women.
We will discuss some of the ways to discuss this matter.
However, before we discuss what the Bible says about a man making a woman cry, it is crucial to note that the concept of male and female and woman in the Bible is mainly discussed in a marriage context.
The Bible uses husband and man and wife and woman interchangeably in the Bible in discussing the relationship between both genders.
For example, Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
Therefore, most of the examples and verses we will use in this article will be Bible instructions to men and women in marriage.
However, these instructions are not limited to marriage relationships but to men and women generally.
What does the Bible say about a man making a woman cry?
Men are to love women.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.” (Ephesians 5:25)
Love is not a word to be expressed verbally alone.
Men understand that women are easily moved by what they hear.
So, they keep saying the magical three words, “I love you.”
But act contrary.
If a quarter of men act what they profess to women, we would have more happy women than damaged and depressed ones today.
The Bible says men must love women, as Jesus loved the church.
This is a huge responsibility because Jesus went about wiping people’s tears and putting smiles on their faces.
It was not recorded anywhere in the Bible that Jesus caused people pain or emotional stress.
Instead, He was binding wounds and healing the brokenhearted.
Jesus even went as far as dying on the cross of Calvary to save humanity from the burden of sin and death.
Therefore, men are to sacrifice anything possible to make women smile and be happy.
We must defend women from evil and other men who want to afflict women just as Jesus protects us from the devil and his demons.
Most especially, men must transcend from verbally confessing love to women to acting out the love they claim to have for them.
Men should not be harsh on women.
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” (Colossians 3:19)
Because women’s emotions can easily be triggered by words, especially those coming from men, they can feel good or bad within based on what they hear consistently.
Women can be happy or cry based on the words they hear.
Words are powerful.
So, men must hand-pick their words carefully before saying them to the women in their lives.
Harsh words can make women cry. Therefore, men must ensure they are soft-spoken, especially when angry.
It is an open secret that women often push men to the wall, especially when emotions are high.
They do not know how to control their tongues when there are misunderstandings and arguments.
So they might say things to provoke the men in their lives.
However, men have the responsibility to control their emotions and tongue.
They must not say things deliberately to hurt a woman’s feelings to win an argument or feel good about themselves.
No matter the provocation, Colossians 4:6 encourages men to be kind and compassionate when speaking to women. “Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.”
Our words should encourage and not discourage.
It should heal and not hurt.
It should provoke laughter and not bring tears.
However, in a situation where you do not know how to restrict yourself from saying harsh things to a woman, ask God for help.
Say the Psalmist’s prayer in Psalm 141:3, “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; Keep watch over the door of my lips.”
Respect women
“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” (1 Peter 3:7)
Naturally, men do not respect women.
Men would rather respect men than women.
That is why they treat them as lesser than them and not worthy of the opportunities and benefits men enjoy.
This is obvious in government and private establishments, education, and other areas of endeavor.
Although gender equality has become the order of the day, there’s still lots of work to be done in the area of giving women the same level of respect as men.
Treating women as lesser beings and not worthy of respect breaks them and could lead to them shedding tears.
So, it’s heartbreaking. However, the Bible encourages men to be respectful toward women.
This command is directed toward men because God knows that men mostly have ego problems.
They like to lord over people.
Obeying the command to respect women and treat them as equals in God’s presence will create a healthy relationship and atmosphere where everyone is appreciated and honored in our homes, offices, and neighborhoods.
Men and women are equal before God.
“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28)
Understanding that we are all equal before God will stop us from downplaying the emotions or silencing the voices of women.
God loves us equally. And His love unites us, making us equal before Him.
Jesus did not pay a higher price for men’s sins or a lower price for women.
His blood was shed for all, and His love is given to all ready to receive it.
Therefore, men and women must stand shoulder to shoulder in all spheres of life.
A lot more women will be happy having this understanding.
That is why God’s kingdom is different from the systems of the world.
Every believer, especially men, must not be influenced by worldly ideologies that women are inferior and must be treated as such.
Instead, we must act according to God’s Word, which says we are all one in Christ Jesus.
With this understanding, every man will think twice before making any woman shed tears, just as they would be cautious about hurting any man for fear of reprisal.
However, men must be more careful when it comes to maltreating women because God always fights their battles.
The consequences might be severe if God hears the voice of a crying woman who calls upon Him in pain and anger.
Treat women right
“Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters.” (1 Timothy 5:2)
1 Timothy 5:2 specifically addresses how old and young women should be treated.
Older women are vulnerable because they are mostly weak and alone.
Men should not exploit their innocence and vulnerability and make them cry.
There are countless stories about older women being cheated and defrauded of their life savings because they are not well informed about keeping their personal information secret.
Therefore, they have become easy targets of internet fraudsters, who want to cart away all they spent their lives working for.
Another set of older women the Bible encourages us to treat well are widows.
These women are mostly lonely.
They are easy targets of men who take advantage of their loneliness, propose love to them, use and then dump them.
Men must learn to protect these women and not see them as easy targets.
They must be treated with respect and love.
Younger men should submit to the wisdom and experience of these older women, learning life lessons and principles instead of taunting and maltreating them.
This same scripture encourages men to treat young ladies with purity like their younger sisters.
Most men see young ladies as sex objects.
They hunt them lie prey.
After they had gotten what they were after, they chased them away and treated them with disdain like Amnon did Tamar (2 Samuel 13). Women must be treated with respect and precious jewels.
Many ladies have been left with scars from broken and abusive relationships.
They shed tears day and night with a heavy burden in their hearts.
If men choose to genuinely love women and date them with the aim of marrying, there would be few broken women out there.
Instead, we will have happy homes and unions where two lovers have decided to love and be with each other.
Dangers of making women cry
God hears their cry.
“If you do mistreat them, and they cry out to me, I will surely hear their cry.” (Exodus 22:23)
God hears the cry of a weeping woman.
It means that whatever they say during pain and anguish goes straight to God, who listens to grant them their wish and petition.
This is scary because when she asks God to punish you for hurting her, He will.
Therefore, you must tread carefully, especially when dealing with a godly and prayerful woman.
She will surely run to God first to pour out her heart to Him. Whatever she requests goes straight to God’s answer room.
God hates the wicked.
“The Lord tests the righteous, but the wicked and the one who loves violence His soul hates.” (Psalm 11:5)
Those that hurt others and make them weep are considered wicked and evil.
God is good and despises evil because the devil is the father of wickedness.
All those who portray the enemy’s traits belong to Him.
The bad thing about not being in God’s good books is that you become an outcast and miss out on all His blessings.
You suffer the same fate as the devil and his demons.
God avenge them
“Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.” (Romans 12:19)
This is the most dangerous. God does not wait for a woman a man had made to cry to avenge herself.
Instead, He avenges them Himself. To avenge is to inflict harm in return for an injury or wrong to a person.
The Bible says God will fight for a woman you have made to cry.
God is a consuming fire.
He might go the extra mile to avenge a woman you have made to cry.
The damage inflicted may exceed the one you did.
Calamity comes suddenly
“Therefore his calamity shall come suddenly; Suddenly he shall be broken without remedy.” (Proverbs 6:15)
God’s calamity comes suddenly on those who set out to hurt women.
Not only that, but they become broken beyond repair.
These words are heavy and must not be downplayed.
A sudden calamity is one no one is prepared for.
This disaster and tragedy is more devastating because you are unprepared for it.
No one else can fix you when God afflicts and breaks you beyond remedy.
You will have nobody to run to except God. And if He refuses to heal or restore you, it’s over.
Therefore, avoid making any woman cry. Avoid God’s wrath and judgment.
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David Akeju is a Christian writer who believes in the transformational power of God’s Word. His articles and books have been published on global platforms, and thousands of lives have been touched. He works with pastors and ministers, churches and ministries, and brands.