Why is God making me wait so long for a husband?
Introduction
Waiting is one of the hardest things to do when you desire to find your life partner and settle down in marriage.
It is even more difficult for ladies advancing in age because of the general perception that men prefer to settle for younger women.
For example, if a lady between a certain age bracket, mostly starting from age 30, isn’t married, it becomes more difficult to find a husband.
However, when God is involved in the waiting process, it removes fear and doubt because God has our best interests at heart.
Jeremiah 29:11 says God’s thoughts for us are good to give us a future and hope. Therefore, not finding your husband now will not hurt you but be beneficial.
If you are wondering why the perfect gentleman has not come for you yet and seems waiting is difficult, this article will rekindle your hope and faith in God.
So, why is God making me wait for a husband?
God is teaching you patience
In a world where patience is fast losing relevance, and everyone wants to get what they want asap, many people rush into decision-making regarding relationships and marriages and often get their hands burned.
For instance, many ladies have had their hearts broken, become single mothers, and experienced divorce because they rushed into marriage without taking time to understand whom they are signing the contract with.
God might be making you wait for your husband because He wants to teach you patience.
Patience is a crucial virtue every couple needs because a marriage journey is challenging. This is because you will be spending the rest of your life with a person with a different upbringing and perception of life.
Therefore, there will be clashes, arguments, and misunderstandings. If you do not have the virtue of patience, you might be unable to endure the heat of marriage.
A lady or man lacking patience will be unable to keep their home. As such, observe your life and see if impatience is still a weakness. Ask God for the Holy Spirit to fill you.
The Bible reveals in Galatians 5:22-23 that patience is one of the fruits of the Spirit. Therefore, crave it, work on yourself and trust God.
You might not be prepared
Not everyone is ready for marriage.
Being desperate or desiring a husband does not mean you are prepared to be a wife.
It is also a popular truth that old age is not a sign of maturity. Therefore, a lady might be 28, 30, or even 40 but still have a teenager mentality, especially in how they perceive marriage.
God knows us through and through, and he can tell if we can handle what we are praying for. However, do not misunderstand perfection for readiness.
There is no perfect spouse in marriage.
Everyone is working toward becoming better every day. But there must be certain standards to reach and boxes to tick to be qualified for marriage.
Perhaps you are not mentally, spiritually, or financially ready to be a wife.
God is giving you more time to work on those areas of your life so your weaknesses do not become your husband’s burden.
Begin the journey so your husband can meet you halfway and be your helper and partner indeed.
To cherish your husband
A common truth about life is we often do not cherish what we get on a platter of gold.
This also applies to marriage.
We mostly value what we work harder to get than the things easily accessible or offered to us.
So, God might be helping you value your significant other when you finally find them by waiting.
Do not think God is punishing you or ignoring your prayers about a husband. Instead, understand that there’s a greater reward for waiting and tend to handle what we strive to achieve with more care and love.
Also, understand that you are not the only one waiting. Your husband is also waiting. Therefore, he will also cherish you more when he finds you.
So, when two hearts filled with love finally meet, they will cherish every moment together and work together to never lose what they had waited, prayed, and searched for.
To depend on Him
When choosing a husband, women naturally focus on physical attributes like height, body structure, deep voice, financial status, etc.
All these are good but, at the same time, mundane because a marriage can crumble even when a man possesses all these.
However, God focuses on the intent of our hearts.
When Samuel wanted to choose the next king of Israel, here’s what He told him, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)
There are tall and handsome women beaters and serial cheaters, but they don’t wear that as a tag on their necks.
So, you must depend on God’s guidance and wisdom to choose the right person whose heart will truly belong to you and who will have the fear of the Lord.
His timing is different from yours
Another reason God is making you wait for your husband is because it’s not yet time for you to be married.
God’s timing differs from yours. “But, beloved, do not forget this one thing, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day.” (2 Peter 3:8).
He controls time and seasons (Daniel 2:21-49, Acts 1:7, Psalm 31:14-15). Therefore, what you see as late might be the best time for you in God’s calendar.
Although God ordained and established marriage, He controls when you enter it.
As such, you might be waiting because it’s not time to be a wife.
Your idea of readiness might be different from God’s.
So, ask Him to help align your will with His and work according to His divine plan.
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David Akeju is a Christian writer who believes in the transformational power of God’s Word. His articles and books have been published on global platforms, and thousands of lives have been touched. He works with pastors and ministers, churches and ministries, and brands.